Body Positivity, The Simply Homemade Mum

Body Positive ♥ A Personal Journey

Do you struggle with body positivity? I do; I have done for as long as I can remember. I see all the flaws and there are lots of them.

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It’s time to change my attitude, to accept myself for who I am. My body is far from perfect but it’s mine. It has carried me through some of the toughest times imaginable, it has gone through five pregnancies, gifting me with my beautiful children; and now I want to appreciate it, to accept it, to live harmoniously with it. Those of you who follow me on Instagram and Facebook may have noticed I have been posting body positive quotes and images. I find them quite helpful; and if they can help even just one more person feel more positive about themselves, that can only be a good thing.

I have struggled for so long now, everyday I am fighting, fighting with myself and fighting with  PCOS (PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome, a hormonal endocrine disorder that affects many women worldwide, there is no cure and it is extremely difficult to manage), fighting with my body. Enough is enough, the time has come to accept myself, love myself even; if I can at all.

The media, for all its wonderful points, it can be a real bitch can’t it?
We are forever being told how we should be exercising, what we should be eating, what we should weigh, how big our bums should be. It’s not always healthy, it’s not always helpful. I do not want my children growing up thinking their waist should only be as wide as an A4 page. Yes, we need to be healthy, without a doubt we do, but we also have to do what’s right for us.
Exercise is a very personal choice I think. I love to walk.For me it’s a wonderful form of exercise. I’m outdoors, inhaling copious amounts of fresh air, catching up with friends or enjoying some much-needed me time. I have neither the time, money or inclination for the gym or an exercise class; decent runners and the open road are perfect. It wouldn’t suit everyone, of course it wouldn’t; my own Mam loved to jog, that was her thing. We are  all different and we shouldn’t be criticised or belittled for exercise choices; not for getting up and moving.
I am at a point where in my life where I eat healthier than I have ever done, I don’t deprive myself of anything but I am not reckless either and I feel so much better for it. What’s even better, I have seen the benefits (via blood testing) and visibly as a direct result of my diet. I listen to my body, if it doesn’t react well to a certain food, I don’t have it. I cannot eat take away food and haven’t done for many, many  years now. I bake using alternatives to refined sugar as that stuff is not my friend. 80% of what I eat is purely for my health & wellbeing. The other 20% is red wine and dark chocolate, a saint I am not!!
Despite exercise and healthy eating, I am overweight. I am not under any illusions to anything different, I cannot hide it, it’s visible for all to see. I am constantly feeling embarrassed, ashamed, self-conscious and even with regard this blog, fraudulent – the woman who blogs healthy recipes, recommends eating less sugar and look at the size of her!- it’s always there, it is me. As always with this blog, I am keeping it real, keeping it honest.
And on that note, as for my bum……well I ain’t no Kim K but imagine if I could balance a second glass of wine on it….happy days!!

In all seriousness however,  now, it is time for acceptance, for a more positive attitude, not just for me myself,  but also my husband and especially my children.

The stretch marks? I’m a mother. The bingo wings? My arms used to be twice the size they are. The laughter lines?  I can’t cry all the time. The tummy? That carried and nourished five beautiful babies. The short legs? Eh… I was born with them.

I am wearing my heart on my sleeve with this post. I am not promoting an unhealthy lifestyle and I don’t want it to be misconstrued as that, this is merely who I am. Please be kind.

Life is too shortDon't be at war with yourselfLove yourself, love your bodyYou are beautiful

 

 

 

32 Comments

  1. Well done Nicola on a beautifully written post. I can relate to alot of what you have said. I often feel like a fraud too blogging about healthy recipes when I could do with losing a few stones 🙁

    We should remind ourselves everyday that we should be proud of what our bodies have achieved and be grateful for what they allow us to do everyday 🙂

    Debbie x

    1. Oh Debbie, thank you. It’s been on my mind for so long and I’m tired fighting with myself. I need to deal with it now. I have never been so nervous publishing anything before!
      And you are right, we should be proud and grateful. And do you know something, I have really come to believe that healthy is not always (or ever even) a number on the scales or a waistband, it is so much more than that.
      Thank you so much for your comment xxx

  2. Trish

    Nicola u have nothing to be embrassed about, ur a fantastic person, mother to ur fab children , and wife to ur lovely hisband. We all have lumps and bumps we don’t like and dats wat makes us unique,. Keep doing what ur doing,mam I’m sure is up there with a big smile watching you and ur little sis making her very proud. Xx

    1. Oh Trish, that is so kind, thank you very much xxx

  3. You’re a great role model for realistic and *sustainable* healthy eating. The long term mental and physical benefits from that are what’s important, not what the scales say.

    1. Thank you so much, I really appreciate that xx

  4. Suzanne

    Nicola you are AMAZING….

  5. Tina

    As always a beautiful honest blog, you are beautiful inside and out Nicola X

  6. Well said, beautifully written – well done. And I love all your healthy eating posts and recipes – keep them coming. i am now thoroughly addicted to almond butter…

    1. Thank you very much. A great addiction to have 😉

  7. A lovely post Nicola. You definitely sound like you have the right attitude. Important as it is to eat healthily, we all need (and usually deserve!) our treats now and again.
    You sound like a great mother and a great cook & baker. So keep it up and pay not attention to meeting the ideal. Better to be happy than thin.

    1. Thank you very much Fionnuala xx

  8. It’s not easy to post something so personal so well done you. Coming to terms with who we are and accepting and eventually learning to love ourselves is so very difficult for so many.
    I hope you get there, your post reminded me of the lines in the John Legend song, ‘All of me’

    ‘Cause all of me
    Loves all of you
    Love your curves and all your edges
    All your perfect imperfections

    Others love us like this, we just must learn to love ourselves.
    Best of luck.

    1. Thank you Tric, I really appreciate that. And that is a lovely quote, I must listen to it xxx

  9. Beautiful post Nicola and very very wise words in regard to being body positive. We are all different. Look after ourselves as best we can and you seem to be doing a great job while also looking after your family too with some fabulous healthy food. I struggle in my head daily with how I perceive myself, I don’t like what I see in the mirror from the neck down but I’m trying to change it for myself, no one else but to make me feel more comfortable but it’s tiring thinking about it all the time. I have seen and love your quotes that you’ve posted, please keep them coming xx

    1. Thank you Louise. It is such a struggle but we will get there, I am determined this time. The scales will not define me anymore, nor should it you or any person. You are beautiful lady xxx

  10. Very positive post on our mind sets towards our bodies Nicola. We are all different in every shape or form I don’t believe there is an ideal shape to conform to, but media can sway us and our kids that way. Great post xx

    1. Thank you very much Danielle. Agree, we are all different, it’s time our differences were celebrated instead of criticised and shamed xxx

  11. I like to walk too, I tried exercising other ways and I just didn’t enjoy it, the idea of going to a gym doesn’t give me any interest. Once you accept who you are and start to love yourself for who you are it makes the world of difference. Great post xx

    1. Thank you Sara. We need to do something we enjoy, otherwise we’d never stick at it anyway.

  12. Really lovely and motivating piece Nicola. I’m currently struggling with my own body confidence so it was lovely to read this from you.

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